护工故事（2016）

看护不仅仅是关于喂食 穿衣和清洁
Caregiving is not just about feeding and clothing and cleaning.
它还需要你知道如何去驾驭
It is also about understanding how to navigate
一段看护者与被看护者
a complicated relationship between those who give care
之间的关系
and those who are in need of it.
如果你感到迷茫 失落 困惑
If you find yourself lost, frustrated, confused,
这套助记口诀总是能帮到你
you can always come back to this helpful mnemonic device:
ALOHA[也有你好的意思]
Aloha.
询问 倾听 观察 帮助 再次询问
Ask, Listen, Observe, Help, Ask again.
看护工作的基本原则就是给予关心
The fundamentals of caregiving are to give care…
但不要太过关心
but not care too much.
假如你真的想长久地从事看护行业
If you truly want a lasting career in caregiving,
你就必须要坚守护工戒条
you’ll need to adhere to the caregiver commandments.
把这些记下来 这是重点
Writ these down. They’re important.
在我照顾别人之前
I cannot take care of another
我必须首先照顾好自己
unless I first take care of myself.
本 本 开门吧 我知道你在里面
Ben. Ben, come on. I know you’re in there.
被看护者的需求
My needs are equal to the
就等同于我的需求
needs of the person to whom I am giving care.
做护工很难
Caregiving is difficult.
我所能做的就是尽最大努力 保持积极的心态
All I can do is try my best and maintain a positive attitude.
恭喜你 你现在是持照护工了
Congratulations, you’re a certified caregiver.
要一只铭记
Just always remember:
ALOHA
Aloha.
询问 倾听 观察 帮助 再次询问
Ask, Listen, Observe, Help, Ask again.
除此之外 别无他物x7f
Nothing less. Nothing more.
你就是本杰明先生吧
You must be Mr. Benjamin.
-我是艾尔莎·康克林 -您好
– Elsa Conklin. – Hi.
我在大概九个月前调职到美国
I was transferred to the States about nine months ago,
所以我们至今还没有给特雷弗找到一个固定的护工
and we’ve yet to find a permanent caregiver for Trevor.
这一趟转移可说是困难重重
The transition’s been difficult, to say the least.
这次过来
The flight over was the
是他第一次坐飞机
first time he’d ever been on a plane and…
还有 就是 他从来不太喜欢
Well, let’s just say, he’s never really been one to relish
走出他的屋子
being outside of his house,
更别说到三千英尺的高空或者来到另一个国家了
let alone 30,000 feet in the air, or here in another country.
好 跟我说说 你为什么选择当一名护工
So, tell me, why’d you choose to be a caregiver?
我喜欢帮助别人
I like helping people.
你现在有客户吗 我们需要全职护工
Do you have clients at the moment? This would be full-time.
没有
No.
你能跟我说说你之前的客户吗
Can you tell me about some of your previous clients?
特雷弗将会是我第一个客户
Trevor would be my first client.
哦 我和他们说过只要经验的人
Oh… I’d asked them to only send people with experience.
哦 额
Oh, um…
我有护工执照 我参加了一项六周的课程
No, I have the certificate. I took the… It’s a six-week course.
是 我上过那个课 没关系
Yeah, I’ve taken it. It’s all right.
只是我特别声明了我们
It’s just that I specified that we…
你好 不好意思
Hello. I’m sorry. You know,
很抱歉 是我做错了什么吗
I’m so sorry. Did I do something wrong?
我今天早上擦了须后水
I put on aftershave this morning.
我平常不怎么擦须后水
That’s something I don’t normally do.
他对气味很敏感吗
Is he sensitive to smells?
特雷弗 够了
Trevor, that’s enough.
在一到三千五之间挑一个数字
Pick a number between one and 3,500.
什么 啊
Wha…? Huh?
玩个游戏 挑个数字
It’s a game. Pick a number.
-三 -错
– Three. – Nope.
应该是两千四百六十四 不好意思 没工作给你
Two thousand, four hundred and sixty-four. Sorry, no job.
特雷弗 这是本 你要问他几个正常的问题吗
Trevor, this is Ben. Do you have any actual questions for him?
你用的哪一种须后水
What kind of aftershave are you wearing?
-特雷弗 -干嘛
– Trevor. – What?
这个人的想法像弱智
This guy thinks retarded
他认为须后水会让人心烦 太厉害了
people get upset by aftershave. That’s brilliant.
到底是怎么让人心烦呢
How does that work, exactly?
像是 哦 不 这个味道
Is it, like, “Oh, no. The smell.”
是哪里传来的这个味道
I don’t understand where it’s coming from.
天呐 救命
Please, somebody help.”
你不是弱智 不要再说这个词了
You’re not retarded. And don’t use that word.
很多人都比不上你 知道吗
People worse off than you, you know?
确实 比如那些
That’s true. Like retarded
被迫擦须后水的弱智
people that are forced to wear aftershave.
抱歉 这孩子有种奇特的幽默感
Sorry. My child has a unique sense of humor.
你有孩子吗
Do you have kids?
没有 我知道我没有经验
No. I know I don’t have any experience,
但我受了培训 而且我非常努力
but I took the course and I’ll work very hard. I…
我已经有一段时间没有工作了
I’ve been out of work for
所以我真的需要这份工作
a while and I could really use this job.
是 但是如果我们要花九美元的时薪
Yeah, but if we’re gonna throw down nine bucks an hour
雇人来给我擦屁♥股♥
for somebody to wipe my ass,
我们就要雇一个知道怎么擦屁♥股♥的人
we need somebody who knows how to wipe an ass.
说吧 本 如果给你这个机会
Tell me, Ben, given the opportunity,
你究竟准备怎么给我擦屁♥股♥
how exactly would you wipe my ass?
你太无礼了
You’re being rude.
我觉得这是个很合理的面试问题
I think it’s a reasonable interview question,
这是在工作范围之内的
given the scope of the job.
无论如何 这个男的得给我擦屁♥股♥
True or false? This man has to wipe my ass.
我会这么擦 在我擦完之后
I’d wipe it in such a way that when I was done,
你屁♥股♥会一干二净 滴屎不剩
there would be no shit left on your ass.
就他了
He’s the one.
-嘿 -嗨
– Hey. – Hi.
带来了吗
Did you bring them?
本 你带离婚协议书来了吗
Ben, did you bring the divorce papers?
哦 其实 我根本没收到
Oh, you know what? Uh, I never got them.
我知道你收到了 我从你的门缝塞进去了
I know you got them. I shoved them under your door.
没错 我看到了你发的信息 真奇怪 我没有
Right, I got your message about that. That’s weird. I don’t…
这有一份新的 给你笔
Here’s a new set. Here’s a pen.
好吧 好吧 我会带回家 我会看一看
All right, well, I’ll take these home and, uh, I’ll read them.
你为什么要这样对我
Why are you doing this to me?
一定要逼我闹上法庭吗
Do I have to get a court order?
你真的希望我这样做吗
I mean, is that really what you want me to do?
我还没做好准备 珍妮特
I’m not ready, Janet.
已经两年半了
It’s been two-and-a-half years.
到底要到猴年马月
What’s the magic number
你才能清醒过来做好准备
where you wake up and you’re finally ready?
六年 八年 还是八十年
Six years? Eight? Eighty?
对不起
I’m sorry.
我只是还没准备好
I’m just not ready.
你好 进来吧
Hello. Come in.
-嗨 -我来带你参观一下
– Hi. – I’ll take you on the tour.
你对DMD了解多少
What do you know about DMD?
额
Um…
额
Uh…
肌营养不良症
Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.
你今晚回家之后 百度一下
When you get home tonight, google it.
-好的 我 -我在一家银行做经理
– Yes, I… – I work as the office manager in a bank.
银行规模很大 但我在一支小分行里工作
It’s a big bank, but I work in a small branch,
就是说如果我迟到了 他们就会发现
which means if I’m late, they notice.
我必须在八点四十出门
I have to leave here at 8:40,
就是说你必须在八点四十到这儿
which means you have to be here at 8:40.
你迟到的话 我也会迟到 我不能迟到
You’re late, I’m late. I can’t be late.
因为只有我来养家
No one else to pay the bills.
我们每天都要给他拉伸肌腱
Every day we stretch his hamstrings,
跟腱 髂胫束 臀屈肌
heel cords, IT-bands, hip flexors,
和前臂 都在床上进行 我会展示给你看
and forearms on the bed. I’ll demonstrate that for you.
他睡觉时大部分时间
He sleeps most nights
要辅助呼吸机来帮他呼吸
with the C-pap machine to help his breathing.
特雷弗极其遵循他的日常习惯 不能被扰乱
Trevor’s extremely tied to his routine. It cannot be disrupted.
如果扰乱了 他会犯恐慌症
If it’s disrupted, he’ll have a panic attack.
他每天都在同一时间起床
He wakes at the same time every day,
在同一时间看电视
he watches TV at the same time every day.
在同一时间吃饭
He eats at the same time every day.